GIVE Respect as a Safety Leader and you'll Get Respect

For some 20+ years now I have been involved in Behavioural Safety, and during that time I have witnessed so many people get it so completely wrong.

Leadership in a safety culture must be built on mutual respect. True respect comes from the way people behave, not from titles, positions, degrees, safety officer training, or other symbols of status. Demonstrating respect for others means behaving toward them in a way that assumes they have value– that differences stem from legitimate motives, and that people’s intentions are typically responsible. Unless they have clearly demonstrated otherwise, all people deserve that level of respect.

Assuming Best Intentions

When differences are respected as legitimate, they can be an energising force for the organisation, as well as a source of innovation and flexibility. Lack of respect for differences can destroy an organisation through mistrust and misunderstanding, or outright hostility.
The key to getting the most from differences lies in assuming that differences stem from legitimate motives, and taking the time to communicate them.

People do not come to work intending to be unsafe. Most people want and intend to behave responsibly and competently. When we respect that, and behave accordingly, we are likely to get responsible, competent behaviour from others.

Too often, our behaviour signals a lack of respect for intentions. For example, when we set up overly-restrictive safety processes, we may signal an expectation that people will not behave responsibly without them. When we give overly-detailed instructions for ordinary tasks, at, say, a toolbox meeting, we may signal an expectation that people will otherwise make a mess of things.

Earning Respect as a Safety-Culture Leader

Demonstrating respect for others goes a long way toward earning it for yourself.   Beyond that, maintaining and building respect for yourself means behaving with fairness, integrity, and forthrightness. We earn respect, for example, when people can see that we are trying to act fairly in our dealings with them, when we have the courage of our convictions, and when we deal directly with problems and issues rather than sweeping them under the rug.

The phrase “you have to be strong to be respected” does not refer to physical strength, nor even unusual strength of character. It means being willing to take action, to accept some risk, and to behave as if you can make a difference.

As leaders in a safety culture, we must be conscientious behavioural models. People will most want to model the behaviour of those they see having integrity and those who have earned their respect.

Below is a set of practices that characterises individuals and groups who typically earn the respect of others.

  • Facing reality as it is, not as you wish it were — or as it used to be
  • Giving honest and straightforward opinions on controversial or contentious issues; having the courage of your convic­tions
  • Making sure others feel that you listen to their ideas and suggestions with an open mind
  • Trying to persuade others through reason, rather than through the authority of your position or through coercion
  • “Walk the talk;” making sure your words and actions match
  • Always giving others a fair shake
  • Making necessary changes before you are forced to do so
  • Presenting yourself, not as a victim of circumstances, but as one who can influence a situation for the better
  • Persisting in the face of opposition, but knowing when it is appropriate to make a tactical retreat
  • Meeting openness and cooperation with like behaviour; avoiding taking advantage of others’ willingness to cooper­ate or to be open


How do you stack up?
Always remember that respect cannot be demanded, it must be earned, and it is not something just to be received, but something we must be willing to give others. If you are looking to change behaviours as part of creating a culture of safety, building mutually respectful relationships is critical.

See you in the next edition!